All I Possess

Leaving behind false traditions in search of the true Jesus


Gaslighting Through Sweet Voices

I can recognize this because it’s bringing up things from my past I’ve already experienced, due to my personality. Let me explain.

I’m a fan of Carol Tuttle’s four “energy types.” (New Age Mormon culture is another interesting topic I need to address at some point.)

I’m a type 3. I’m known for being highly ambitious and productive, but also feisty, impulsive, sassy, and even angry.

Let’s just say, when I’m excited or opinionated, I’m not calm.

On the other end of this spectrum, you have people who are poised, calm, deliberate, slower and more thoughtful. They are excellent communicators and never ruffle any feathers.

So there’s this logical fallacy, I feel like, within my one subconscious insecurities, that people think the calm person is always right. Simply because they’re calm.

Maybe they’re ignorant; maybe they’re naive, maybe they’re just not informed. But gosh darn it, they are calm! So they must be right! They win the argument.

(Is this just me?)

So I’ve felt at a disadvantage all my life over this.

I feel misunderstand and maligned, like my voice doesn’t matter because I’m not super diplomatic. So I must be wrong.

This is why I prefer to write my thoughts out.

It makes me nervous to go on a podcast where I may say something before thinking it through or have it come out sounding bad, and then taken out of context and end up getting attacked for something I didn’t verbalize very well.

So anyway.

I’ve listened to a few podcasts between evangelicals and Latter-day Saints.

I’m not saying the evangelicals are fiery. No, they are actually very well spoken and respectful.

But the Latter-day Saints like to talk in this sweet voice.

So today, I heard them discussing the common idea that Mormons aren’t Christians. And the LDS guys says “we strive to be disciples of Jesus Christ” in his most sweetest voice.

Well, who can argue with that??

And then I am even more fired up because I feel like he’s gaslighting me. I argue back (in my own house here), using logic instead of sweet voices.

Another example is when Pastor Jeff on Hello Saints talked about the Book of Mormon with Tyler Griffin. Jeff makes very valid points and asks solid questions, while Tyler creates fluffy analogies and feel-good frosting responses that seem like ponies and rainbows…..without ever answering the question.

Especially not in a way that makes any logical sense.

But Mormons fall for this sugar sweet gaslighting all the time!

It’s spoken so nicely, hence it must be correct.

Sigh. 😏

Rather, Mormonism is like an artificial sugar. (Thanks, Daniel!!)